My wife and I are both in the military and plan on getting out in a couple years when our contracts are up. I told her I have my heart set on becoming a firefighter and she flat out said "No you're not going to do that!" I understand that she's scared of me getting hurt and she had a friend who was a firefighter and got killed, but I still feel like she's being selfish. Should I take my wife's advice or is she being too selfish?
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08-09-2010, 09:51 AM #1
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08-09-2010, 10:38 AM #2
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No offence to you,But I cant belive you would ask a question like that here.
Maybe Dear Abby would be a better bet.
08-09-2010, 10:59 AM #3
08-09-2010, 11:08 AM #4
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ok i get the point. i'll take this question somewhere else.
08-09-2010, 11:11 AM #5
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Even the most supportive wife will have times that they wish their husbands had not been firefighters. When you are gone on holidays, birthdays, 120 hour shifts, they miss you. I have heard from my wife more than once, ďI never signed up to be a single parentĒ.
Three summers ago two of the best guys and greatest firefighters in the world died in a structure fire trying to save a couple. That only made things worse, because before she was just missing me and worrying a little, now she worries a lot and misses me more.
If your wife already doesnít like the idea it isnít going to get better, only worse. If something happens, you get hurt, the dog runs away, you get a divorce it will all be your fault and because you became a firefighter and didnít listen to her.
Having military service makes it a lot easier to get hired as a firefighter, so does being a woman. Maybe she should join the fire service first and then see how it really is and you can follow. My department has a lot of husband and wife firefighters, the two paychecks would be nice. You just want to make sure if you do this you always get promoted before her, you donít want to be outranked at home and at work.
Good Luck, Capt Rob
08-09-2010, 07:43 PM #6
08-09-2010, 09:29 PM #7
My wife loves my schedule, can be a pain at times like mentioned but the fact that every three days her and the kids get a day to themselves and the other two days I am home to be with her and the kids. She just blocks out the potential bad parts of the job and goes on with it.
08-09-2010, 10:30 PM #8
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If mama isn't happy nobody's happy. You could do hard time if you don't listen. There is no winning here. Only degrees of losing.
A minister for a large city told the new rookies, "76% of the firefighters on this department have been divorced at least once. If you want to get married find someone you hate and buy them a house."______________________________ _______________
"Nothing counts 'til you have the badge . . . Nothing!"
Fire "Captain Bob"
08-10-2010, 09:08 AM #9
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She doesnt need to worry about you getting hurt on the job..
That won't be the scary part...
The scary part is finding a career job first
08-10-2010, 12:21 PM #10
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Wait, your coming out of the Military, and /now/ she's worried about you getting hurt on the job?
Seems like you might be a little safer as a FF. Just me.
08-10-2010, 03:57 PM #11
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08-10-2010, 04:14 PM #12
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Maybe a new wife is in order.
08-10-2010, 05:42 PM #13
I've been married for 14 years and I love my wife with all my heart. No job is worth an unhappy spouse.
Just my opinion. I'd be a garbage man (not that there's anything wrong with that, just sayin', it's not my cup of tea, but I'd still do it) if it meant keeping my wife happy and less stressed out.
08-10-2010, 06:02 PM #14
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she's being selfish.
my wife knows and understands what this job means to me. she knows the sacrifices she and i will have to make for it. she knows i will move to wherever i need to get it.
ive always told my wife, i rather you make less money doing something you love than many big bucks doing something you hate.
if you're not happy, then she won't be.
08-10-2010, 06:56 PM #15
To the OP: Who the hell wants to go to a job they hate everyday? What effect is that going to have on the marriage in the long run?
Why doesn't she want you to be a firefighter? Nights away from home? The danger? Something else?
I wouldn't say it if it wasn't true: Still the best damn job on earth.Career Fire Captain
Volunteer Chief Officer
Never taking for granted that I'm privileged enough to have the greatest job in the world!
08-24-2010, 09:46 AM #16
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Your marriage is much more important than ANY job. You do not want to reach your goal of becoming a firefighter only to find that you are alone. it's just not worth it.
Here is a great article that my wife wrote about being married to a firefighter. You may want to share it with your wife. It may alleviate some of her concerns about being married to a firefighter. Good luck to both of you!
Firefighting: A Wifeís Perspective
By Marian Lepore
From the beginning of our relationship, I knew this would be different. We
could only see each other on red and green days and I could only call him at
work after 9 a.m. or before 9 p.m. and never at mealtime. No one warned me
what it would be like to date a firefighter.
After I met his family, I was introduced to his firefighter family Ė the three
crewmembers he spent ten 24-hour shifts with each month. They knew
everything about me. I came to realize that I would have to be willing to share
him with his coworkers, both on and off duty.
It didnít take long for me to learn the peculiarities of fire department
etiquette. When I visited the fire station for the first time, I had to bring a pie.
In fact, whenever a firefighter does something for the first time, whether itís
buying a house, being mentioned in the news, or having a child, he or she
must bring ice cream for the crew.
On birthdays, firefighters bring in their own cake. When they get promoted
or reassigned to a new station, they cook their own farewell meal for their
coworkers. It became evident to me that firefighters are more comfortable
serving others than being served.
When we became more serious in our relationship and eventually married,
the church and reception hall were filled with firefighters and their families.
The happiness of one was celebrated joyously with the rest (of course, after
all the jokes of bringing running shoes for the groom). The birth of children,
purchase of a home, or completion of a college degree is all celebrated as if
it were close family members achieving these successes.
I could see that firefighters are bonded in a special way. They spend 24
hours at a time together, which is much more time than most family members
spend with each other. They work together for a single purpose, whether itís
to save a life, put out the flames in a burning building, or educate children
in fire safety. They must be willing to risk their lives for each other without
Firefighters take care of each other. If one is going through a divorce, tives
he or she is counseled, supported and encouraged. If another is having
difficulties with a rebellious teenager, many others can offer advice from their
own experiences as parents. When a firefighter is trying to promote, he or
she may carefully choose the next station assignment knowing that a certain
crewmember will help with oral interviews or fire simulator problems.
When I first started dating my husband, I couldnít believe that a 23-year-old
could own a home. He later explained that when he first started on the fire
department, an older firefighter sat down with him and educated him on the
importance of saving for and purchasing a home. He also taught him about
deferred compensation and how important it is to maximize his contributions
from the very beginning. Thanks to the wisdom and caring of this older
firefighter and the magic of compounded interest for investments, my husband
and I both maximized our retirement savings (his deferred comp, my 401K)
and we will retire comfortably.
My husband has carried on this tradition of helping new recruits by educating
them on financial investments and deferred compensation. Firefighters look
out for each other in every way.
Everything in the fire service is done in a big way. The Long Beach Fire
Department has the biggest grill I have ever seen. It is built on wheels and is
towed behind a truck. I would have thought it was ridiculous if I hadnít seen
that every spot on the grill was being used. This grill is used for graduation
ceremonies, department picnics, fund-raisers and all types of community
events. Only a firefighter could have dreamed up that grill!
When a firefighter cooks, he or she cooks in a big way. It doesnít seem
to matter if it is a large station with several engine companies and rigs, or a
station with a single engine company and a crew of four. There are always at
least two refrigerators at the station to hold all the leftovers. When my husband
is at home, he carries on the tradition and cooks enough to feed an army. I
also have two refrigerators in my home.
Maybe firefighters are just trained to think in a big way. But along with big
ladders and big trucks come big responsibilities. When I was dating my future husband, I was a student in the physical therapy program at California State University, Long Beach. I was taking anatomy and physiology classes and was interested in the medical side of his job. He was still a paramedic at that time and had not yet promoted to captain. He suggested that I ride along with him to see what he did. The television
show ER didnít hold a candle to the real life drama I witnessed.
It was pretty slow (he thought) and I accompanied him on calls responding
to SOB (shortness of breath) and a drug overdose. We were just sitting down
to an elaborate Mexican dinner, when another call came in. It was reported as
a man down, gunshots heard. The crew responded immediately to the call.
When the paramedic rig and the fire engine arrived, there was a large,
angry crowd gathered. The police had not yet arrived, so it was not known
whether the assailant was still present in the crowd or had left. The victim was
not even visible through the crowd. The captain, who always looks out for his
crew, ensured that the police arrived to control the crowd and clear the area.
The victim was a teenage boy with a gunshot wound to the chest.
He was hooked up to an EKG machine, given an IV for fluid and other
medications and the bleeding controlled as well as possible in the field. They
kept in constant communication with doctors in the ER, so the medical staff
could give further instructions and was fully prepared for him when he arrived.
Every crewmember was needed, whether it was to take vital signs, control
bleeding, administer medication, fetch equipment, use the radio, or interview
family members. I was in awe of how efficiently this team could work, with a
critical victim in the field, poor lighting, a large, noisy crowd and possibly an
assailant who did not want this victim to survive.
The victim was rapidly transported to the ER, where the paramedic team
was integrated into the hospitalís response and they worked together to try
to save this boyís life. Within minutes his chest was cracked open and there
was the largest pool of blood I could imagine beneath the gurney. Even with
CPR, repeated administration of cardiac medications, defibrillation, IV fluids,
intubation and other intensive efforts, they could not save his life. The bullet
had nicked his aorta and he had lost too much blood.
His family was in the waiting room. His mother became hysterical and his
brother vowed revenge for this gang-related shooting. The crew returned to the
station to finish dinner and prepare for the next call. This experience will remain
vivid in my memory for the rest of my life. For the crew, it was just another day
on the job. They felt compassion for the victim and his family, but they could
not be overwhelmed by it, or they would not be able to continue working.
Along with the intensity of responding to critical emergencies and the
danger of entering burning buildings, there can be unexpected dangers. In
1992, after the verdict in the Rodney King beating was announced, Los Angeles
County went crazy. There was rioting throughout the streets. People were
burning down buildings, beating total strangers and looting stores. It was out
People were so angry that they were shooting at anyone in authority,
including firefighters. As if the job were not dangerous enough! There was
one incident that my husband only told me about years later and it was only
after a coworker casually referred to it. A call came into the station that a strip
mall was on fire. Due to reports of firefighters being shot at and threatened by
crowds, they were supposed to wait for the police to show up and accompany
them to the scene. The police were busy elsewhere, as you can imagine, so
the fire department responded anyway. Just as they were finishing, they were
shot at and had to take cover behind the fire truck. They managed to get into
the truck safely and quickly left the scene. As they left, they could see the
arsonists leaving their hiding place to prepare to burn the buildings again.
The Los Angeles riots put the fire service to the test.
Sure enough, shortly after returning to the station they were called out
again to the strip mall. This time they put on their flak jackets and waited for
the police to accompany them on the call. They put out the fire in what was
left of the mall. That was the longest night of my life and I didnít even know
how truly bad it was until later.
Spouses of firefighters also support each other. Whether it is by getting
together for Bunco monthly, taking care of each otherís kids, or just chatting
over a cup of coffee, it is important to share any concerns with others who
understand. Marriage can be challenging enough for couples who work
Monday through Friday from nine to five. Add the stress of dealing with an
always changing work schedule, a dangerous environment and the need to
be completely self-sufficient, and it can be disastrous for a marriage. The best
way to cope is to maintain your sense of humor.
Humor and laughter is an integral part of fire station life. My husband brings
home stories of outrageous deeds and unbelievable wit nearly every shift. If
late night talk show hosts need new material or writers, they could do no better
than some of the creative minds on the fire department. Especially funny
stories of practical jokes or extreme composure after being water-dropped
become urban legends.
When I was dating my husband and planning to visit him at the fire station
for the first time, he warned me to look up before I entered the station. He
said that sometimes first-time visitors were water-dropped when they entered
the station house. I had no idea what he was talking about. These were
adults. He must be joking. Well, I was lucky that my ignorance did not get me
into trouble. I remained dry throughout that first visit. It was only later that I
realized he was not joking.
I realized immediately that it is not only the firefighters who have to have a
good sense of humor. During our wedding ceremony, our exchange of vows
was delayed by several minutes as the blaring of a siren just outside the church
doors drowned out the ministerís words. Later at the reception, one of the
layers of cake looked odd to me. When I investigated, I found the inside of
the cake had been hollowed out, filled with paper towels and then recovered
with frosting. When I turned to my new husband in shock, he just shrugged
as if to say, ďOf course they cored the cake.Ē
The practical jokes continued at home. Our children learned the hard way
that they had to learn to laugh in the face of disaster. Of course, a childís idea
of disaster is not exactly the same as an adultís. When our oldest daughter
was in elementary school, she worked hard to complete a Ďbook float,í which
is a visual book report built on the top of a shoebox. Her book float was
elaborate, with trees made of broccoli tops glued to the shoebox. When she
was getting ready to go to school the next morning, she found that all of her
Ďtreesí had been chopped down! Her father had eaten the tops of the broccoli
that morning before he left for work. He thought it was a hilarious joke. She
did not feel that way. After many tears and an emergency session with a glue
gun, she finally began to see the humor in the situation.
Our youngest daughter found that she had to be on guard at all times. One
day when she was watching her favorite TV show, she became frantic because
the TV kept changing channels all by itself. Her father finally confessed that
he was using the master remote control from a distance. Now I find that I
am the one who needs to stay on her toes in our house. Our children have
learned the hard way to give as well as they got.
Without a sense of humor, a ready joke and the ability to see the bright side
of things, the tragedy firefighters encounter every shift would soon overwhelm
them. It is a coping mechanism to help deal with the seriousness of the job.
If a firefighter candidate cannot laugh easily and often at him or herself, the
candidate will either not succeed, or will not be happy on the job. He or she
will never understand the culture of the fire service.
After my husband was in a terrible head-on collision between the engine
he was on and a police cruiser, he was out of work for several months. He
fought to return to work full duty. I think the fire service must be one of the
only professions in which its members enjoy the job so much they will not
consider an alternative.
My husband shows up at the station 45 minutes before the start of his
shift, just in case he can take a call for the captain coming off duty and allow
him to leave work on time. When my husband is going off duty, he stays to
share a cup of coffee and some laughs with the oncoming crew. I know of no
other profession in which its members are not in a hurry to leave after their
shift is over.
So why do so many people dream of becoming firefighters?
The fire department schedule is one of the biggest draws to the job. There
is no other job in which you can work only ten days a month, with either six or
four days off at a time. The problem is that when my husband wants to go on
vacation, he doesnít understand that I canít match his schedule and just take off
four or six days at a time. At least I know his schedule a year in advance!
Because their schedules are so different from everyone elseís, firefighters
like to vacation together. It is common to see large groups of firefighter families
on vacation in Hawaii, Baja, or Lake Havasu. Itís also convenient to share the
childcare duties with other parents.
Firefighters generally enjoy their work schedule, but it can be hard on a
family and marriage. Spouses must be self-sufficient and prepared to take
care of crises on their own. If a firefighterís child is sick, he or she cannot just
leave the station to pick up the child from school. It is critical that the firefighter
remain at work to keep the station fully staffed for emergencies. If a firefighter
goes home, it must be for a serious injury or illness.
The firefighter schedule can also be inconvenient on holidays. Most people
are used to spending holidays with their family. Firefighters donít have a choice.
If they are scheduled to work on a holiday, they work. Unless they are going out
of town, they do not request the day off. Everyone would love to have holidays
off to spend with his or her family, but someone must work. If they were to call
in sick and no one was signed up to work overtime, another firefighter would
be force hired and pulled out of a family gathering. A firefighter spouse must
be flexible enough to be prepared to cook and entertain all by him or herself
at a momentís notice.
It is expected that the younger firefighters without families offer to work on
major holidays. As they get older and have their own families, the favor will
be repaid by the next generation of firefighters.
When a firefighter is scheduled to work on a major holiday, the family
members are often invited into the station for a holiday meal. The crew will
go all out and prepare a lavish feast. Sometimes the family members end up
eating all by themselves as the crew is called out on an emergency. The kids
donít mind. They feel that the more time in the station, the better. Again, it
just goes with the job.
Because they work a set schedule regardless of holidays, firefighters get
time off which includes both vacation and holidays. When they take time off, it
is usually for several weeks at a time. I have found that having your husband
on vacation can be worse than having your kids out of school for the summer.
A firefighter with too much time on his hands can get into much more trouble
than your kids.
Firefighters are generally do-it-yourselfers. This is why you will often
see them in Home Depot. They are mechanically inclined and are used to
improvising to solve problems quickly. You may come home from work one
day and find that you have a new laundry chute or the washing machine is
being rebuilt. If you are someone who likes things done a certain way, then
for the sake of marital harmony, I suggest you call a professional out to build,
repair, or replace whatever it is before your husbandís next vacation, four or
Most of us go on vacation to get away from our jobs. When my husband
is on vacation, he seeks out fire stations. I have gotten used to losing my
husband for a few hours during a vacation while he rides along with the local
fire department. Of course he is hoping to go on a really Ďgoodí call (which to
the rest of us means Ďbadí).
My husband has T-shirts from fire departments in Alaska, Illinois, Louisiana,
Nevada, Texas, Washington, Washington, D.C., Utah and many more. Iím
almost embarrassed to say that I even visited a fire station on my own when I
recently went to New York City. When my husband sees someone wearing a
fire department T-shirt, he will always ask that person if he or she is on the job.
There is an instant bond between them, to the point that two total strangers
can joke and tease each other about their respective departments.
Another advantage about the fire department is the benefits. There are
usually many options for medical and dental plans, so you can pick the plan
that is right for you whether you are single or married with a family. The credit
union canít be beat. They give personalized service and actually know your
name when you call.
One of the biggest benefits is the retirement package. It is negotiated
as part of the firefightersí contract. Unfortunately, the life expectancy of a
firefighter after retirement is not as long as that of a person who has not been
exposed to smoke, chemicals, stress, blood, injury and interrupted sleep for
their entire professional career.
Depending on their age when they were hired, firefighters usually retire in
their fifties. However, they will not be bored after retirement. Most firefighters
have hobbies which take up a great deal of their time, such as skiing, fishing,
boating, fishing, traveling, fishing, or biking. When I was dating my future
husband, he said he liked to fish. I was thinking that in Southern California,
itís only fishing season in the summer. No big deal, maybe I would even go
with him sometimes. It was only later that I realized that it is always fishing
season somewhere in the world. I should have been forewarned when he had
to check his fishing tide book before committing to a wedding date.
Every firefighter has a side business. This business is not reserved
for after retirement. They conduct this business throughout their fire
service career. Since they work only ten days a month, there is plenty of
time off to do carpentry, plumbing, concrete, tile setting, painting, roofing,
CPR instruction, writing, or manage whatever business they have invested
in. The advantage to other firefighters (and their wives) is that whenever
something needs to be fixed at home, there is always a firefighter with
the skills to do it. Forget paying full price to a plumber, electrician, or
drywaller! By trading skills and services, most firefighters are able to remodel
and upgrade their homes.
Firefighters earn a good salary and are rarely ever laid off. Overtime
shifts also help immensely. However, I donít know if you can truly compensate
someone for the long-term effects of a chemical fire, or the emotional
scars from being first on scene at a horrendous child abuse incident. Firefighters
seldom talk about the really terrible things they witness, but we all know
we can count on them when weíre in trouble.
People love firefighters. Children and even some adults wave at them
as they drive by on their big trucks. When others accompany a firefighter,
even off duty, the benefits often extend to them. After the Southern
California wildfires, Disneyland in Anaheim was offering free admission for
firefighters and their families as a thank you. We invited our neighbors to
go with us. I am a physical therapist, my neighbor is a teacher and her
husband is a computer consultant. None of us has ever been admitted toerspectives
an amusement park for free just because of our profession. Firefighters,
however, are universally loved, appreciated and welcomed.
It may seem to outside observers that firefighters all look similar: tall,
lean, dark hair and a moustache. Well, departments have changed over
the years as they seek greater diversity, skills and strengths. They try to
hire firefighters who can relate to and speak the languages of the people in
the community. They hire female firefighters who can contribute their abilities
and perspective to the department. They even hired my husband despite
the fact that he cannot grow a decent moustache.
Maybe one reason that firefighters seem so alike is that they have the
same attitudes. They are honest, brave (you wouldnít catch me running
into a burning building) and exceedingly generous with their time and talents.
When they take the time to tutor children, fix up a dilapidated house in
the neighborhood, or collect and hand out Christmas gifts to disadvantaged
children, it is all on their own time. Their spirit of public service is an example
that should humble the rest of us. I canít resent the time my husband
takes to help others, because it is part of who he is. Our youngest daughter
had a wonderful time one Christmas when she was able to help hand out
donated gifts and ride with Santa in his sleigh atop a fire truck.
I have wondered how the fire department manages to hire so many
people with the same attitudes. I guess it is because they know what they
are looking for. The selflessness and willingness to sacrifice canít be taught.
It must be an integral part of their makeup. When a firefighter or family member
is seriously ill, others will line up to cover his or her shifts with no expectation
of being repaid for their time.
As a spouse, I will never understand my husbandís excitement when he
is called on to spend days fighting a raging wildfire, or enthusiastically
describes in vivid detail the fire that ripped through the chemical warehouse.
But his coworkers understand. They will always be there for him, working
towards the same goal and watching his back. I count on them to do that.
The fire service is a very large, caring, fun-loving family, of which I am proud
to be an extended member. I know that even if my husband is lost at sea during
one of his many Baja fishing trips, or something unthinkable happens during
one of his calls at work, my children and I will always be taken care of.
08-24-2010, 10:33 AM #17
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WOW!!!!!! I am an aspiring Firefighter and I hope that when I achieve my dreams. My wife and I can have those kinds of fulfilling experiences like that lady and her husband. (Deeply moved by this posting awesome.) Can't wait to earn my stripes and become a brother of this wonderful fraternity.
08-24-2010, 10:57 AM #18We both have desk jobs in the Air Force.
It's funny some of the replies about making the wife happy, or no job is worth an unhappy spouse.....
But what about you? If you truly desire to be a firefighter and this is the career you believe will make you the happiest, I say Go for it! You also need to be happy in this relationship.
Marriage is all about a little give and take, supporting your spouse even though you may not agree 100%. Her not wanting you to be a firefighter under the guise of it's to dangerous, sounds to me like a cop out.
Just my opinion since you asked.My posts reflect my views and opinions, not the organization I work for or my IAFF local. Some of which they may not agree. I.A.C.O.J. member
"I ask, Sir, what is the militia? It is the whole people. To disarm the people is the best and most effectual way to enslave them."
Co-author of the Second Amendment
during Virginia's Convention to Ratify the Constitution, 1788
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08-24-2010, 12:17 PM #19
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Find out *why* she doesn't want you to be a FF (is it solely based on the incident with her friend?). Is it the hours? Risk? Remember to tell her that the TV shows and movies about FFs seldom accurate. Most movies have more "big fires" than the average FF will experience in 5 yrs, 10 yrs or even a career (although there are some depts that do see a lot of fire, just most don't).
Also, remember that you will receive months of training before you even go into a training fire. Although it may look risky from the outside, firefighting is usually controlled risks. There are lots of safety items in place to reduce the chance of getting hurt.
I was Army, and I know the AF has a cushier life, but my wife loves my schedule now. She sees me more and I get to spend more time with my family. Most stations are very open to having a family stop in during shift and many even do family nights where everyone's family comes in and has dinner.
If she's still set in her ways, will you be happy in another line of work? In the end though, you've got to look at it as a choice. Do you want to be unhappy in a line of work that makes your wife happy or happy in a line of work that makes your wife unhappy.
Hopefully you can address some of her concerns and get her to be happy with your desire to become a FF. I had a few other jobs before I got hired and my wife says she's never seen me happier than now.
08-24-2010, 03:28 PM #20
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i strongly disagree w/ chief lepore's first 2 lines. rum and zzyyzx have it right (except for the "af has a cushier life..." i find that funny)
marriage more important than any job... maybe any old job? ill say yes. a dream, a passion? the first thing that pops in my head, HELL NO.
job satisfaction, i believe is key to a happy marriage. i know so many people who have marriage problems which i contribute to the lack of job satisfaction. you're going to spend roughly a third of your life doing something you don't want to do. my marriage was rough while i was in the military. my wife "how was your day", myself "same ****, different day". right now im in the fire academy and testing with a few depts, i now make half of what i did as an e-4 and no benefits, but my wife and i are so much happier.
kman, if you view firefighting the way i do and you dont go for it, you will hold it against your wife. every morning youre going to wake up and have the "what if?" running in your head. you cant let one person hold you back, doesnt matter if its a spouse.
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