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    Default Dealing with negativity

    My department has a person that has always been negative. they have been talked to about it several times but no change has occurred in there attitude. Just wondering if anyone has had an issue like this and how they have handled it?

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    Don't "feed" them.

    Some people grow up in that kind of environment - so it's all they know. They may not even see it as an issue - it's just how they think life goes.
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    A few years back we had a guy like this. He was talked to, talked to, talked to over and over again. We finally got tired of it and started reading into the bylaws. The Board finally suspended him for 30 days for "conduct unbecoming." He seemed to get the message. He's still a member and once in a while will have a re-occurrence but the threat of another forced vacation thumps him back down.
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    Is there something going on in his personal life, that is making his life dismal? Marital problem, job loss, excessive debt, family member dying (cancer, etc.). He may have a personal problem, where his life is falling apart?

    How about at the department? Has been overlooked for a promotion or even training?

    Since a major part of the US, has had a rough winter, does this fellow have the winter blues? People can become depressed, when not getting enough sunshine (Vitamin D, etc.).

    While I have not met this firefighter personally, you may be able to find out, if he is experiencing a specific problem, that affects his FD service.

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    We have this problem at our station. When people are insecure they resort to bullying tactics to make others look bad so they look good. All everyone else can do there is try our best. Do your job and be good at it. When they slack off, and put the others in the position of working even harder because of it, look at it as an opportunity because you (referring to all of us here, including you) end up training harder--and this is a good thing. You get better in your job and they don't. They're too busy bitchin'.
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    Rise above it, and lead by example.
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    Always with the negative waves, Moriarty.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DFDMAXX View Post
    Rise above it, and lead by example.
    Illegitimi non carborundum.

    (Don't let the b******s wear you down!)
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    Agreed. Most of the negative personnel within your house could be facing exterior or interior obstacles with their lives and don't know how to speak out with the problems. This is very common for us in the service, since we feel that we are admitting we are failures to solving them; for in our life, we are the solution rather than the problem. Taking the time to sit down and talk with the individual, listening and being proactive can produce positive results in most instances.

    I too have dealt with FF's such as the one you have mentioned. The negativity rears its ugly head if you will during certain times of the year. As an added insult to the team integrity, this individual has a mid-level supervisor position, so that FF's whole crew feels the effects as well as the department the FF serves.

    We spend our lives preaching about the importance of communication, and for most, they are successful when it comes to the incident; yet fail miserably with our fellow brothers and sisters.

    And in the end, when you have exhausted all resources in helping the troubled FF, then Administration is left with no alternative, corrective action.

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