Pain in the @#$ at the firehall!!

[DFD132]

How many people have those people at the firehall who make sure to get into your business. It seems around my firehall all people care about is my personal life is this like every firehall. This firehall is going to drive me to drink!!!!

[Adze]

Oh yeah...we definately have those guys...they are also the worst ones at spreading around rumors (mostly false)...

[Engine69]

You don't need to look as far as the firehall... there are a few of those types right here on this forum!

[Exp.chief51]

Everybody's got 'em, always have, always will...

[smokeeater51]

There are some people on my department that I know some pretty personal things about, and those are the people who don't try to keep their lives a secret. There are also people who come to the station, do their job and go home, and that's all I know of them. And to be honest, when it comes to some people, that's all I care to know. Someone once told me, "don't give them the ammunition they need to shoot at you with". If you don't want stuff known, keep a low profile. Keep home life at home, etc. Like was said before, it's happening EVERYWHERE, always has, always will.

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Take care, stay safe, & stay low!

Lt. Spinney

[ChiefMcD]

WE should come up with a nickname for them.

[DFD132]

Smokeeater51 I took your advice your so right I have been bringing my personal life down to the hall. I'm going to stop talking all together maybe this will work better. It really pee's me off to sit and hear about my personal life all the time. It's always what I buy,where I'm going,Why I may be mad about something,real stupid stuff. I never ever pick on them for the stuff they do maybe I should quit. DFD132

[smokeeater51]

No need to quit, you won't be happy. There is always a way to deal with the petty crap that goes on at the station, unless your upper echelon is participating in the game too. Maybe they are just doing it to get a rise out of you. Don't let your emotions come out. Once they see that it's not getting to you it won't be fun for them anymore, and they'll leave you alone. Give it some time, see what happens, and then decide your next course of action.

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Take care, stay safe, & stay low!

Lt. Spinney

[Les.H]

If you look close into the background of the said person, you will normally find that they do this everywhere else as well. It's not just with you, but they take it with them into all sections of their lives. You get use to the different ways to handle them after a while and we have one on our unit. A real pain in the butt.

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Kindest regards & keep safe,

Sprinkle (UK)
http://www.crowthorneinfo.co.uk

[Engine58]

Yea, I hear ya...I'm in the same situation....a couple nights a week when I have the time I like to go down the building and sit and relax and wait for a call or 2 to come in..But all it ever is is YOU HEAR WHAT HE SAID? YOU HEAR WHAT HAPPENED TO THIS ONE??/ Now words are getting put in my mouth and I'm looking like the bad guy in this newer situation..Which I havent even been down the building in like 2 weeks I only came down for a few calls and i leave when we get back....And whenever something bad happens this one person is always quick to blame this other person who barely EVER comes around cause of school & work...It amazes me how people get into other peoples business and it just ****es me off...But it seems I stay away and stil cant get away from it all..ohwell.....what can ya do..i'm happy with what I do and where I do it..so they wont make me quit..I just will limit my # of Calls I respond to thats all simple as that..

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Andrew
South Amboy, New Jersey
Explorer Engine 6 So. Amboy Fire Dept & Cadet Morgan FAS
"EMTS DON'T DIE THEY JUST STABILIZE"

[KeithA8]

Hey DFD,
It's me again. Did you ever wonder why people pick on you? It's because you drive an old police car and you're crying about how your blue light isn't big enough and you should have a siren. That's why people pick on you. Look in the mirror, you might see that pain in the @$$.
For those of you reading this and wondering what the heck I'm talking about - just read the forum in this section titled "Blue Light's" by the same author. The word Stem Whacker might come to mind.
DFD - Have a nice day.

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IAFF Local 2033, Love this job! Hate SCABS!

[Deputy Dog Dashwood]

Ive got one guy on my department that pipes up adn it bugs alot of other fire fighters from time to time, if he would keep his mouth shut some times, we would be happy. Oh well if we didn't have these people we wouldn't have any thing to talk about
FYT FYR FORVEVER

[SFDE12]

DFD132, welcome to the fire service! I guess you must be new due to the fact you actually seem bothered, or surprised by this. It's like that at every fire house and once a bigger "slapper" joins the'll pick on him more. Also crying about lights and sirens only fuels these guy to pry more.

[DFD132]

SFDE12 and KeithA8 you both can lick B---s cause I've been in the fire service for 10 years, I'm a 1st Lieut. As far as my Bluelight conplaining, I'm not the only one. Again there you guys go again sniffing eachothers fingers. Do me and all of us Real fireman us Volunteer's a favor and stop posting. Bluelight's are not the reason for me joining it's dedication, leadership something you career guys don't have cause your to busy waiting for a check. I ONLY MEAN THE ABOVE SAID TO THESE TWO CAREER WINDOWLICKERs, AND NOT TO THE HARDWORKING DEDICATED CAREER FIREMAN GODBLESS ALL OF YOU!! Smokeeater51 and engine58 thank you.

[Eng522ine]

DFD... We have a TON of the rumor lovers around here. It's actually to the point where we've even jokingly assigned "ranks" to people in the "Rumor Mill." Honestly though, if you wanna have some fun with them, just mention something (true or untrue) about one of them in front of another one and see how far fetched it is when it comes back to you. We have one guy on that starts at least 1 rumor a day (some of which are pretty cruel), so a few of us decided to have some "fun" with the guy. It was mentioned that his car was seen at the firehouse at 3am along with the car of a younger attractive female member (we got her approval on this first). Two days later, his wife came in asking who knew anything about him filing for a divorce! All this within 48 hours! If only departmental memos got around that quick. I know this seems like a petty game but, hell, it was fun seeing him on the receiving end of a rumor for once.

[Jake295885]

Dude what's wrong? Waiting on a paycheck? Let me guess a few things about you. Your a frustrated young single male who can't find or hold on to a decent job. Women will not date you, people make fun of you, so you act out your fantasy's at the volunteer fire house. Large blue lamps mounted a top of the police car look alike. Numerious antenna's. Security guard employment. The FBI has a profile on guys like this. They are bed wetters,
crual to animals,
And set fires.

Dude get some help real soon. Jake

[mongofire_99]

I'm going to be blunt, so if you wear your feelings on your shoulders, stop reading now.

You have been warned...

This happens everywhere in every occupation and volunteer organization. How many jobs have you had?

If this bothers you enough to post it here, you will never last in law enforcement much less around the fire station. And you'll just be a bitter old pain in the @#$ if you do.

Deal with it, get over it and move on or find a new hobby and line of work before you go nuts and hurt somebody.

[Dr. Law]

A ten-year 1st Lt. who cannot spell, reason, makes obscene name-calling comebacks, and who does not know how to deal with personnel in the office?

That's scary! Also real embarrassing to the rest of us who care about our public presence on posts such as these which are viewed world-wide.

Are you sure you are not lying to us about that 1st Lt. and 10-years working thing?


Just too scary!

[FFTrainer]

Ahhh, the sounds of kids bickering on a play ground??? I haven't been in grade school in a while and I don't have any kids but I think it would sounds similar to some of these replies.

Can we not just answer a question without attacking the individual?

DFD -- Accept the fact that the people you describe are everywhere. They are not a firehall issue, an issue with these forums, they are an issue in life itself. Anytime you spend a little bit of time with the same group of people, you will see one of these types rise to the surface. I find they seem to go away if they don't get the satisfaction of irritating the sh&t out of you. Remember the water off of a ducks back theory and I bet they go bother someone else.

However if you react like you did in one of the replies you posted here, you will be ridiculed forever. Let it go, laugh it off and deal with it. It appears you may need to grow a slightly tougher skin to do this, but don't quit or you will definitely be the one who loses and they will get the last laugh!

Stay Safe!

[canman]

I usually ignore them, I'll work with them on scene and at drills but after that give them the cold shoulder. They never ask or try to find out my bussinees again, or the point blank approach. Tell them if it's not fire related you don't want to talk about it end of story and walk away. Sooner or later these old bitties will get the message and leave you alone.