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    Question Old Flames

    The thread on wierd dreams got me thinking. Am I the only one that has a particular ex that they still think about on a regular basis? Its strange, Im VERY happily married, going on 17 years. But from time to time, I still think about one ex-girlfriend. I even have dreams about her once in a while.

    She used to live about 1/2 a mile from me, and I used to catch myself driving by her old house. Her parents still live there, and its like I hope one time she would be ther visiting or something. Not that I have any idea what I would have done or said if I saw her again. I havent done that in a while, so I guess Im passed that part.

    So, Im I the only one? Do I need to see a shrink?
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    Are you just trying to get us in trouble?

    No old flames left smoldering here. Each was broken into small pieces and doused with a healthy amount of liquid after knockdown... It's called *overhaul*!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dave1983
    Do I need to see a shrink?
    YES!

    So, Im I the only one?
    No.

    Just remember.... the grass may be greener on the other side, but that just means you have to mow it more often! Translated into english = High Maintenance!

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    Nope, Dave...you're not the only one. As long as you don't yell out her name, you'll do just fine!

    I dunno, FFTrainer.... the grass is greener on my side (I don't mind the mowing!) and things didn't work out for a reason. I'm not looking back...but I peak every once in a while.

    Next year's going to be my real test...oh nevermind, it's a long story.

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    Dave I understand where you are coming from. As for driving past her house that’s open for debate lol. On the plus side your not looking in the windows. As my granddad told me. “Boy ex’s are like milk. If you go to the fridge and pull out the milk take a drink to find it went sour. Do you put it back in the fridge and hope it gets better later? Hell no you throw it out. Ex’s are the same way. They’re an ex for a reason leave it that way. If you go back it’s not going to get any better.” Don’t know if it will help or not but there it is. Bet if you would talk to her now it maybe the what did I ever see in her type thing. Good luck in what ever happens.
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    funny you should ask. Yes there is one I think about alot.
    I know better, I try not to compare every woman I meet to this one
    but it happens. She lived with me for 2 years,been gone almost 2 years
    and I still get that strange feeling in my stomach when I see her.

    the more women I meet the more I like my DOG

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    Quote Originally Posted by firemanpat29
    the more women I meet the more I like my DOG
    ROFLMAO!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by firemanpat29
    the more women I meet the more I like my DOG
    Ditto.....ROFLMAO! I've been married 20 years and can barely remember the ex's...i guess that's a good thing?
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    Grass may be greener on the other side, but you have to wonder what fertilizes it!

    It's human nature to think about the past. Just don't cross the line and jump into the "stalker" category.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RadRob
    It's human nature to think about the past. Just don't cross the line and jump into the "stalker" category.
    LOL, no worries there. I dont even go down that street anymore (unless its for a call).

    I think it all has to do with she had a crush on me, and I really didnt pay her much attention at first. We dated off and on for a couple years. It wasnt untill much later that I figured out what I had been missing out on. But by then, she was pretty much over me. I guess she got tired of waiting for me to get a clue.

    I blame myself for it not working out and Ill have left is too wonder what might have been.

    Oh well...
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    Default my story

    i dated this guy in high school that I had a big crush on back then. We only went out a few times before he moved on to someone else. I never forgot him. Well, I got married at 22 and divorced at 30. So, when I found myself single, I started thinking about him again... a lot. Well to make a long story short, I found him, we hooked up and had a great weekend together... 15 years after our first date! We parted as friends and I don't think about him anymore. Nice guy, but I had made him out to be something more than he was. Hope that helps.
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    Dave:
    Your dept has an employee assistance program right? Been divorced for 4 years and still continuosly think about the EX. Your normal!

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    Quote Originally Posted by wag11c
    Your normal!
    Thats the first time anyone's ever said that about me. Thanks!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dave1983
    Thats the first time anyone's ever said that about me.
    Enjoy it....it may be the last time!

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    Dave, Dave, Dave.....


    This thread is about as safe as building a playground in a medical refuse dump

    Death by frying pan is not the way that I want to leave this ole` earth.

    ***edit***
    to answer you question. It is normal. As long as you understand that looking back means you are not looking forward..(which is dangerous considering you might be driving....)
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    Not long ago,I was listening to my favorite radio station with one of Sammy Kershaw's sappy love songs being dedicated to a guy with the same name as me from a woman with the same name as my ex.
    I didn't immediately jump up,find her number and rekindle it.Nor did I call the station to dedicate a song for her,even to tell her,it's over,it will always be over and I will never want it to be restarted.Like another poster said,she is an ex for a reason and she will stay that way.
    And driving/walking by her house/trying to get her to return your calls may in the past have been thought of as a harmless part of loving someone you wanted badly but nowadays,it can and will be taken as evidence of stalking.BTDT.Hated it.
    If you want to get her back,more power to you,friend.Good luck with it,it's just something I don't intend to do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by doughesson
    Not long ago,I was listening to my favorite radio station with one of Sammy Kershaw's sappy love songs being dedicated to a guy with the same name as me from a woman with the same name as my ex.
    I didn't immediately jump up,find her number and rekindle it.Nor did I call the station to dedicate a song for her,even to tell her,it's over,it will always be over and I will never want it to be restarted.Like another poster said,she is an ex for a reason and she will stay that way.
    And driving/walking by her house/trying to get her to return your calls may in the past have been thought of as a harmless part of loving someone you wanted badly but nowadays,it can and will be taken as evidence of stalking.BTDT.Hated it.
    If you want to get her back,more power to you,friend.Good luck with it,it's just something I don't intend to do.
    Oh, I dont want her back, Im VERY happy with what I have. I just wish I could get her out of my head.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dave1983
    Oh, I dont want her back, Im VERY happy with what I have. I just wish I could get her out of my head.
    Dave, it seems to me that you are suffering with an all too common ailment. It's called "Post Parting Impression".

    Oh by the way, damn you for making me think about my old girlfriends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by snowball
    Oh by the way, damn you for making me think about my old girlfriends.
    Sorry.
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    I once wondered why i dont get caught up on my EXs but then someone told me... I am too shallow
    "There are only two things that i know are infinite, the universe and human stupidity. And im not so sure about the former."

    For all the life of me, i cant see a firefighter going to hell. At least not for very long. We would end up putting out all the fires and annoying the devil too much.

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    You're normal but you better hope your wife doesn't read firehouse...lol

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    I have a Black and Decker drill with titanium bits that you could borrow.That oughta let the thoughts of her out into the open.
    Though I didn't do it,I did think about a responding dedication but realized it might not be the same Doug and "Dawn"so I just hoped that they were very happy with each other and went on my merry way.
    Best way to get over an ex is to get on with your life if you haven't already and never speak her name again.

    Quote Originally Posted by Dave1983
    Oh, I don't want her back, Im VERY happy with what I have. I just wish I could get her out of my head.

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    I had an ex that I thought about for a few years. Then, I saw her living in a school bus, on a skidder landing. Problem solved.
    Bwaaaaahahahahahaha

    I think we call these unanswered prayers.
    There goes the neighborhood.

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    Why didn't I pay attention to this thread when I first read it?

    Why, why, why?

    Or maybe I did and thats what got me into the trouble I'm in now.

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    Thumbs up Funny Timing..................

    Strange that this subject should pop up now. My ex and her husband, and my wife and I, enjoy a certain friendship, if you want to call it that. We get along OK, and end up at various events, and we've been known to make up a table of four at a dinner event. Don't miss her, but I don't duck her either, we're somewhere in the middle. No ill will there, we agreed to disagree, and agreed to keep it upbeat for the kids who were 5 and 11 then. Things worked well for all concerned.
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